A few days ago, I blogged about a bad day for gays marriage. Today came a moment of sharp clarity that the tide is turning — one parent, coworker at at time.

“I just could not bring myself to tell an entire group of our community they were less important, less worthy or less deserving of the rights and responsibilities of marriage than anyone else, simply because of their sexual orientation.”

“Two years ago I believed that civil unions were a fair alternative … those beliefs, in my case, have changed. The concet of a separate but equal institution is not something I can support.”

“I want for them the same thing that we all want for our loved ones. For each of them to find a mate, whom they love deeply and who loves them back. Someone who they can grow old together and share life’s experiences.”

It’s something we’ve likely all seen. I know this is how it was with my own family. Parents who once awkwardly informed me that the couldn’t support gay marriage now won’t support a conservative candidate who campaigns against gays and lesbians. It absolutely has everything to do with the real life experience of knowing gays and lesbians, but it goes beyond that. I don’t think my mother would have changed her view point on gay marriage specifically if it wasn’t for her relationship with my partner, Shane. It takes more than just the knowledge that we’re gay. They have to see our lives in practice, including both how similar our lives mirror their own and in the unnecessary struggles that we face because we’re gay and lesbian.